Sex is Privilege…

Most of us would agree that Ferraris, mansions, and yachts are reserved for the privileged.  How many of us however view sex as a privilege?  Elderly people who live in retirement homes rarely have sufficient privacy for sex .  People with disabilities are often told they are lucky to be alive so they shouldn’t even worry about sex.  … Read more

The Sex & Intimacy Show Gets Bounced from Prime Time…

Remember the song “I’m Too Sexy”? You know the one, “I’m too sexy for my shirt, too sexy for my shirt, so sexy it hurts”… Well, I never thought I’d say these words, but it’s official. I truly understand the burden of being too sexy…TOO SEXY FOR PRIMETIME, that is! We had our inaugural show … Read more

Sadomasochists are no different than Ma & Pa Kettle…

  I had a record number of visits to my blog yesterday when I wrote about spanking. Since there was so much interest in the topic it seems that one good spanking deserves another.  There were four recent scientific studies conducted on the mental health of BDSM practitioners.  Each study found no evidence of psychopathology and there … Read more

A spanking good time…

I had a client last week who loves to be spanked as foreplay.  Her husband is reluctant.  He wants to know why she wants to be spanked and is it normal.  The first thing we need to do is forget about why.  We don’t know why and it’s not important.  What is important is what … Read more

Sex on the beach…

One of the biggest challenges couples of all ages face is the use of what I call the two “killer words,” i.e., “always” and “never.” You always do this and you never do that!  Always and never are relationship killers because they don’t allow for growth and change.  I love this picture of two young … Read more

Hanky Panky for Mommy & Daddy…

Sexual desire is the number one concern people bring to my sex therapy practice.  One partner wants more and one partner wants less.  This is particularly true with new parents.  Mom’s hormones are running rampant after the birth of a child, the baby is screaming bloody murder, the new dad doesn’t know what to do, … Read more

Seasonal Affective Disorder Wreaks Havoc on Sexual Desire…

    It is 4 degrees below zero here in Denver tonight.  Yes kids, that’s Fahrenheit and that doesn’t account for wind chill.  The weather and a few sad clients remind me of just how many people become depressed from the cold short days and decreased sunshine.  There is no reimbursement code for “cabin fever”  … Read more

Fetishes are all good in Sweden…

 Mental health professionals across the globe have a little known “secret code book” used to diagnose mental illness, i.e., depression, anxiety, etc.  In the US it is called the DSM while in Europe it is called the ICD.  Psychiatrists generally get paid by insurance companies and use the codes in this 6 pound, 800 page guerilla of a … Read more