Too Much of a Good Thing…

On August 9, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

Imagine a woman who is constantly aroused for no apparent reason.  Imagine she is unable to control when and where she has orgasms.  Imagine that even orgasm doesn’t bring resolution to her heightened state of arousal.  On the surface it sounds great, but it is generally very problematic for those concerned.  The term for this condition is Persistent Sexual Arousal Syndrome (PSAS).  Many women who have this condition don’t know what it is, don’t know where to turn, and feel ashamed because of it.  If you are in this situation here is a resource for you:  http://www.psas-support.com

APA Says Gays Don’t Need to be Fixed…

On August 6, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

Sending gays to therapy to become “un-gay” has been a hotly debated topic within the mental health community for many years.  One school of thought (from a very tiny school with even smaller thoughts) is that homosexuality is a mental illness and that gays should undergo “reparative therapy” in order to become heterosexual.  The American Psychological Association (APA) representing its’ 150,000 professional members, said yesterday that after an exhaustive review of 50 years worth of studies, even if gays wanted to become straight there is no credible evidence concluding that reparative therapy is effective.  As a clinician who has worked with countless people of every sexual orientation, I can say with confidence that sexual orientation is not a choice, but rather a clear case of nature over nurture.  The only people that need repair are the people who impose their moral values on others, pathologize those who are different than themselves, and claim there is only one way to live in this life.

Panty Fetish on Steroids…

On July 31, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

There is the Smithsonian, The Louvre and The Grand Met. But why waste your time with the Mona Lisa when you can see an entire exhibit on underwear.   Famed artist, Jan Bucquoy created the Underwear Museum in Brussels, Belgium.  Bucquoy told Reuters that he is “creating poetry (and that) underwear is art.”  To be considered for the exhibit, the underwear must have been worn by a celebrity or politician for at least one day.  Bucquoy also noted that “If I had portrayed Hitler in his underpants there would not have been a war.”  Really, Jan?  I think we may have a new poster boy for One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest!

David Letterman: Why Golf is Better Than Sex…

On July 30, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

Letterman or Leno?  Despite the side splitting humor of Leno’s “Jay-Walking” segment, I’m a Dave guy all the way!

David Letterman on “The Top 10 Reasons Golf is Better Than Sex.”

#10…A below par performance is considered damn good.
#9…You can stop in the middle and have a cheeseburger and a couple of beers.
#8…It’s much easier to find the sweet spot.
#7…Foursomes are encouraged.
#6…You can still make money doing it as a senior.
#5..Three times a day is possible.
#4…Your partner doesn’t hire a lawyer if you play with someone else.
#3..If you live in Florida, you can do it almost everyday.
#2…You don’t have to cuddle with your partner when you’re finished.
And the number one reason why golf is better than sex…..
#1…If your equipment gets old and rusty, you can replace it!

Therapy Without Shame…

On July 28, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

headacheJudgemental therapists give me a headache.  Most therapists are compassionate, skilled, emapthic, loving, kind, supportive and nurturing.  Several times per year however, including today, a new client sadly told me they were judged by their former therapist because said therapist wasn’t comfortable with the client’s sexual practices.  That is maddening to me!  As a member of the helping professions our vary ethos is to “first do no harm.”  Fortunately, just when my gaskets were about to blow, a dear friend sent me this lovely quote from one of our former professors.  The following quote from Dr. Epp reminded me of just how many extraordinary people there are in our field, when she said:  “I am a sexologist and that means I’ve given my life to the scientific study of organized information about sex.  Just as I wouldn’t judge daisies over roses if  I were a botanist, I don’t judge sexual behaviors.”  ~ Janice Epp, PhD — You go, girl.  BTW: Dr. Charles Moser wrote a book entitled Health Care Without Shame.  His book is difficult to obtain these days, however our health care system would be a kinder, gentler place if Moser’s book was required reading for all health care professionals.

Sex Tax…

On July 26, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

If Indiana Congressman, Steve Buyer, gets his way — sex could be the next thing to get taxed.  Apparently during discussions for the new health care bill, Buyer suggested a sin tax by way of higher health care premiums for those who engage in risky behavior, including unprotected sex.  (I don’t believe he included risky behaviors such as skydiving, martial arts, or your Harley ride to Sturgis next weekend).  Now let’s just suppose you agree with the congressman.  How are we going to monitor and enforce it?  How will we know the difference between a broken condom and no condom at all?  Would it include oral sex or only intercourse?  By the way, would we make that retroactive to President Clinton’s tryst with Monica, and if so, would the insurance premiums increase for both partners equally, or would there be different rates based on income? Forget nanny cams, if this bill passes I am going into the business of condom cams!

A Sexual Wake-Up Call…

On July 22, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

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Everyone has heard of the 7 year itch.  In clinical terms there are actually three stages of a relationship that are at higher levels of risk for divorce.  Years 7, 15 and 25.  During those times it is easy to focus on the problems.  I like the approach that my colleague Tammy Nelson (seen right) takes which is to focus on the strengths of a relationship, or what she calls the “Waking Up Stage.”  When couples learn to re-connect the spark can live on for the long term. In her book, Getting the Sex You Want, Tammy says, “When you crave more passion in your relationship, you really crave move depth or intimacy.” If you want to hear Tammy live, you can tune in to The Sex & Intimacy Show this Thursday, July 23, 2009.  www.sexandintimacyshow.com

There is a Buzz in Bedrooms Across the Nation…

On July 13, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

Indian University (IU) reports that approximately half of both men and women use vibrators during sex.  This is the first meaningful vibrator study ever conducted on thousands of people between the ages of 18 to 60.  The researchers found that vibrators were helpful to overcome sexual dysfunction as well as to enhance pleasure.  Much overlooked by IU is one additional benefit of buying a vibrator.  Not only can you stimulate your partner but you can also stimulate the economy.

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Remember the song “I’m Too Sexy”? You know the one, “I’m too sexy for my shirt, too sexy for my shirt, so sexy it hurts”…

Well, I never thought I’d say these words, but it’s official. I truly understand the burden of being too sexy…TOO SEXY FOR PRIMETIME, that is! We had our inaugural show last week and we were just too hot for prime time, so we’re movin on up. The Sex & Intimacy Show will now air live on Thursday’s at 10pm Mountain (9pm PDT/Midnight EDT).

Still Two Ways to Tune In…

1. The show will broadcast live on the Mile High Sports network in Denver Colorado *AM 1510* at 10pm Mountain Time.

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Clearly The Sex & Intimacy Show is still the edgy, fun and informative show where no question is off limits and no topic is taboo. Learn how to create sizzling sex and healthy relationships for a lifetime as Elaina and I provide an honest, entertaining and engaging approach to everybody’s favorite subject. The show is sex positive, relevant, and always full of humor and heart.

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Countless couples come to me on the verge of divorce.  The last two weeks were particularly difficult for me to see so many nice people in so much pain.  By the time they get to me, there is often much unresolved anger, a lack of trust, no empathy and an overall sense of hopelessness.  If the couple is in love and are at least willing to explore the option of remaining married, then I say damn the torpedos and full speed ahead.  Some of the best relationships have been built from the ashes of broken hearts. No matter how bad it seems, no matter who has done what to whom, there is always hope.  I tell my clients that I will often fight for their marriage longer than they will.  Until my client says “stop” I’m focused on solutions and possibilities. It’s not easy work for the couples and it can get intense, but it’s worth the effort.  At worst, a couple who fully engages with a good counselor will never be able to look back with regrets for not making the effort.  In these tough economic times, I often hear couples say they can’t afford therapy, to which I respond, “then you certainly can’t afford divorce.”  If you are on the brink of divorce, just remember one thing: You can always get divorced, but once you get divorced you can’t un-ring the bell.  www.doctorcannon.com  

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