Selecting a Therapist…

On September 25, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

Over the years I’ve had wonderful therapists and I’ve had awful therapists.  Most of my colleagues range from good to gifted.  Unfortunately, I also come across therapists that I wouldn’t let pet my cat, let alone work with one of my friends.  There is not a week that goes by that I am not asked how to select a therapist.  I write a monthly column for AccessRx — a leading men’s health blog and decided to comprehensively tackle the issue in the hopes that it will help people know what to look for.  A good therapist can help you heal while a bad therapist can do permanent damage. If you would like to learn more about how to make one of the biggest life-choices that  you will ever make, you can read my article at the  AccessRx.com blog.  Look for the article called “Sex Whisperers: How to Select the Right Sex Therapist.”

Thank Goodness for the Underwear Police…

On September 16, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

Last Thursday at a Georgia night club, partygoers decided to dance in their underwear. Thank goodness the Atlanta Police Department (APD) stepped in and saved the crowd of adult patrons from themselves by arresting them.  If not for APD, consenting adults might have seen each other in their underwear. Doesn’t JC Pennny spend millions each year with footage of beautiful models wearing sexy lingerie in their prime time TV ads?  Thank heaven that APD was alert to the danger and even called in the “Red Dog Unit” which is generally reserved for gang violence.  Perhaps the police were concerned that the dancers might be packing Uzi’s underneath the elastic of their undies. Ultimately, 62 patrons and 8 employees were cuffed and forced to lay face down on the ground. What were these rebels being charged with, you ask? Indecency. Indecency, really? Haven’t the APD guys ever ever been to the beach or looked at a Sears Catalog? I wonder if the Atlanta DA will go for the death penalty against the CEO of Victoria Secret. Are our tax dollars really being spent on this nonsense?   In Atlanta, apparently we are when it comes to gay bars. As the men were roughly being forced to the ground, they were also on the receiving end of anti-gay slurs and excessive force. Can you imagine people at a straight club in an upscale part of your city being treated this way? Of course not. This is discrimination against a sexual minority and it should bother every American. In this great country it has to be okay to be white or black or mexican or asian or gay or straight, or god forbid, even left-handed.  In case you were wondering, “The mission of the Atlanta Police Department is to reduce crime and promote the quality of life, in partnership with our community…(and with values of) Dedication, Professionalism, Integrity.” Whoops!

On September 10, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

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Tonight’s guest on The Sex & Intimacy Show is Dr. Michael Bader the author of “Male Sexuality.”  This is going to be a great show and I hope you will join us.  Kim Cattrall, star of Sex and the City says of Michael Bader “reminds us that understanding erotic life is the best cure for what ails us.”  I couldn’t agree more.  Thursday nights at 10pm Mountain Time and Midnight EST.  For listening information go to: www.sexandintimacyshow.com

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She may not be Bill Clinton, but she is definitely one of the most important people in the field of sexuality.  Dr. Patti Britton is the Immediate Past President of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).  www.aasect.org. Past President’s of AASECT read like the “Who’s Who” of sexuality professionals.  AASECT is the leading organization that certifies sex therapists throughout the world.  As I was thinking about the honor of having Dr. Britton appear on our show, I couldn’t help but think back to the elation I felt the day I learned that my 75 page application to become an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist was approved by the certification committee.  In addition to adherence to a strict code of ethics, AASECT Certified Sex Therapists are required to meet a long list of educational, experiential and clinical requirements.  Few people are better equipped to discuss any sexual concern than Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Patti Britton.  I hope you will join us for what promises to be an excellent show.  For more about the show: www.sexandintimacyshow.com.   To learn more about Dr. Patti Britton: http://www.yoursexcoach.com/

APA Says Gays Don’t Need to be Fixed…

On August 6, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

Sending gays to therapy to become “un-gay” has been a hotly debated topic within the mental health community for many years.  One school of thought (from a very tiny school with even smaller thoughts) is that homosexuality is a mental illness and that gays should undergo “reparative therapy” in order to become heterosexual.  The American Psychological Association (APA) representing its’ 150,000 professional members, said yesterday that after an exhaustive review of 50 years worth of studies, even if gays wanted to become straight there is no credible evidence concluding that reparative therapy is effective.  As a clinician who has worked with countless people of every sexual orientation, I can say with confidence that sexual orientation is not a choice, but rather a clear case of nature over nurture.  The only people that need repair are the people who impose their moral values on others, pathologize those who are different than themselves, and claim there is only one way to live in this life.

Therapy Without Shame…

On July 28, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

headacheJudgemental therapists give me a headache.  Most therapists are compassionate, skilled, emapthic, loving, kind, supportive and nurturing.  Several times per year however, including today, a new client sadly told me they were judged by their former therapist because said therapist wasn’t comfortable with the client’s sexual practices.  That is maddening to me!  As a member of the helping professions our vary ethos is to “first do no harm.”  Fortunately, just when my gaskets were about to blow, a dear friend sent me this lovely quote from one of our former professors.  The following quote from Dr. Epp reminded me of just how many extraordinary people there are in our field, when she said:  “I am a sexologist and that means I’ve given my life to the scientific study of organized information about sex.  Just as I wouldn’t judge daisies over roses if  I were a botanist, I don’t judge sexual behaviors.”  ~ Janice Epp, PhD — You go, girl.  BTW: Dr. Charles Moser wrote a book entitled Health Care Without Shame.  His book is difficult to obtain these days, however our health care system would be a kinder, gentler place if Moser’s book was required reading for all health care professionals.

Selecting the right therapist…

On November 8, 2008, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

I frequently get calls from friends and family wanting to know what they should look for when selecting a therapist.  My advice:  In this age of specialization you should be able to select a therapist who has expertise in your very specific area of concern.  Second, studies show that up to 45% of the effectiveness of therapy depends on how well you connect with your therapist. Is their personality compatible with your personality?  Are they actively involved in helping you create solutions or do they simply nod and sigh? Either approach is okay depending on your style, however if you are conscious of what you want you are upping your odds for success.  Third, I tell my friends to select a therapist that is active in the professional community.  None of us has all the answers, but the best therapists are tapped into a broader network of experts we can consult with or refer you to.  Lastly, the pink elephant in the room is often economics.  It is important that you select a therapist whose fees are within your budget.  If paying with a credit card or insurance is important to you, then be sure to ask about it.  And by the way, the right therapist who is more expensive per hour may still turn out to be less expensive if he or she can help you solve you achieve your goals quickly.  At the end of the day, remember one thing, the really good therapists are only concerned with one thing and that is that you get the best possible care. www.doctorcannon.com