Is this Your Year to Forgive & Forget?

  I have the honor of working with many people who have been abused physically, emotionally and or sexually.  Our culture teaches us to “forgive and forget” and in fact those who don’t are often shamed for not taking the high road.  Society says to forgive and forget, let bygones be bygones, and turn the … Read more

The Cat in the Hat Smells a Rat…

  I heard about this unbelievable “Kitty Porn” story from a colleague.  Frankly however, I was afraid to follow-up because I didn’t want to Google “Kitty Porn” and innocently get caught up in an FBI sting where the good guys were trying to catch the bad guys.  That said I knew this story was the cat’s meow so I … Read more

Sexual Athleticism…

Tonight on The Sex & Intimacy Show our special guest is Lorae.  Like Tiger and Elvis, Lorae is so hot she only needs a one word name!  Lorae is a sacred-sexuality educator who coaches men to be “enlightened lovers.” Her method mixes ancient practices like Tantra and Taoism with the latest western medical and scientific … Read more

Therapy Without Shame…

Judgemental therapists give me a headache.  Most therapists are compassionate, skilled, emapthic, loving, kind, supportive and nurturing.  Several times per year however, including today, a new client sadly told me they were judged by their former therapist because said therapist wasn’t comfortable with the client’s sexual practices.  That is maddening to me!  As a member of the helping professions our vary ethos … Read more

Better holiday sex starts in the kitchen…

    I remember standing in the kitchen during the holidays when I was a little boy while three generations of Cannon women were cooking Christmas dinner.  I recall asking my mom why she was cutting off the ends off the roast before placing it in the oven.  She lovingly told me it was part … Read more

Early ejaculation…

Many men experience early ejaculation and it is hardly surprising when we think about it.  We are a time sensitive culture that wants instant gratification, fast food, and movies on demand.  Men that talk fast and eat fast, often come fast as well.  Being quick and efficient may be the very strength that makes you effective at work however it … Read more

Am I normal?

A frequent question I hear in my office is “Am I normal?”  My response is to try a different question, i.e., am I happy?  For many people letting go of worries about normality is a giant step toward internal peace and happiness.  Remember too that being normal isn’t all that it is cracked up to be.  Albert Einstien was hardly … Read more