Pope on Pleasure…

On July 4, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

elliephotoThe guest this week on the Sex & Intimacy Show is Ellie Pope. We will be talking with the delightful Ellie Pope about how to have more pleasure in your life. Who doesn’t want more of that? We hope you will join us for our inaugural show Sunday, July 5th at 5PM Mountain Time and 7PM EST. We broadcast live from Larimer Square.  If you are in Denver you can tune in to 1510 AM radio. Alternatively you can listen live anywhere in the intergalactic planetary system at www.milehighsportsradio.com

Hanky Panky for Mommy & Daddy…

On January 30, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

Sexual desire is the number one concern people bring to my sex therapy practice.  One partner wants more and one partner wants less.  This is particularly true with new parents.  Mom’s hormones are running rampant after the birth of a child, the baby is screaming bloody murder, the new dad doesn’t know what to do, etc., etc.  I am pleased to say that there is a “must read” book just published on the subject written by my colleague and friend, Dr. Ian Kerner, author of “She Comes First.” Ian’s new book is called, “Love in the Time of Colic: The New Parents’ Guide to Getting it On Again”.  When the going gets tough, sex is the glue that holds relationships together.  Ian’s book may be the best relationship insurance policy that parents can buy! www.doctorcannon.com

 

It’s good modeling for parents to be affectionate in front of their children.  Granted, most kids don’t want to see mom and dad compete for the World Federated Tongue Wrestling Championship, however they do like to see mom and dad be affectionate. It makes kids feel secure, safe and loved.  The best way to make sure that your kids grow up to have healthy, sexy, intimate relationships as adults is to model it for them today.  As families come together for the holidays this is a great opportunity for Mr. & Mrs. Claus to show the love.  www.doctorcannon.com  

Better holiday sex starts in the kitchen…

On December 23, 2008, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

 

I remember standing in the kitchen during the holidays when I was a little boy while three generations of Cannon women were cooking Christmas dinner.  I recall asking my mom why she was cutting off the ends off the roast before placing it in the oven.  She lovingly told me it was part of her mother’s recipe and that’s what made it special.  So I asked her mom, my Grandmother Exie why she cut off the ends of the roast.   Grandma Exie told me it was part of her mother’s recipe and that’s what made it taste so good.  So I asked her mom, my great grandmother Mimi why she cut off the ends of the roast.  Great Grandma Mimi looked at me with a funny expression and said, I used to cut off the end of the roasts because my old oven was so small.  Not to be a buzz kill during the holidays,  but 45% of first marriages end in divorce, 65% of second marriages end in divorce and 75% of 3rd marriages end in divorce.  The reason for the same people getting divorced repeatedly is that they keep behaving the same way with different partners.  The couples I see in my practice who respond best to therapy become highly conscious of their patterns and break old behaviors that aren’t working.  The happiest couples tend to look for new ways to do things, new ways to love their partner, new ways to increase intimacy and above all else,  new ways to grow together as a couple. Cheers!  www.doctorcannon.com

 

How to avoid band aid relationships…

On December 13, 2008, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

I had a woman in my office recently who is in a new relationship.  She is attracted to the woman she is dating however the more intimate they become, the more concerns she has about their sexual compatibility.  As a strength based couples counselor I tell my clients at the first session that I will fight for their relationship longer than they will.  In a perfect world, I would like for her new lover to join us in counseling however her lover is resistant.  So at this point in time the woman is my client and therefore my mission is to help my client to reach *her* goals.  Dating is an opportunity to explore and learn who we are going to be compatible with.  Sexuality is the only thing that separates a friendship from an intimate partnership. The relationship we are discussing is very new and it seems to me that this is a wonderful opportunity for my client to think about what she really wants in a partner.  When working with people who are dating and caught up in the excitement and fears that go with new relationships, I like to challenge people who are on the fence to expand their self-curiosity and help them be conscious as to whether they are “selecting, or settling”. www.doctorcannon.com