The Cat in the Hat Smells a Rat…

On August 15, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

I heard about this unbelievable “Kitty Porn” story from a colleague.  Frankly however, I was afraid to follow-up because I didn’t want to Google “Kitty Porn” and innocently get caught up in an FBI sting where the good guys were trying to catch the bad guys.  That said I knew this story was the cat’s meow so I took the risk and now the cat is out of the bag.  There is a sex offender (SO) in Florida.  He got busted by the FBI who found over 1000 images of child porn on the SO’s computer.  But here’s the gem of all defenses.  The alleged SO claimed his cat jumped on his key board and downloaded the porn.  Yes, the SO claimed the kitty was responsible for all 1000 pictures of kiddy porn.  Personally, I think this guy is lion.  Furthermore, when the investigatoin is complete I bet they find this guy has a long history of dogs eating his homework!

Sexual Athleticism…

On August 13, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

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Tonight on The Sex & Intimacy Show our special guest is Lorae.  Like Tiger and Elvis, Lorae is so hot she only needs a one word name!  Lorae is a sacred-sexuality educator who coaches men to be “enlightened lovers.” Her method mixes ancient practices like Tantra and Taoism with the latest western medical and scientific discoveries — and she does it in a way that’s practical, fun, and extraordinarily sexy.  According to Lorae, being an accomplished lover is like being a pro athlete — you need to learn the fundamentals from experts, develop your skills, have intense desire and drive, then  practice, practice, practice. I don’t know about you, but it sounds a lot more fun than Broncos training camp this week!  www.sexandintimacyshow.com

Sex is Privilege…

On August 13, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

Most of us would agree that Ferraris, mansions, and yachts are reserved for the privileged.  How many of us however view sex as a privilege?  Elderly people who live in retirement homes rarely have sufficient privacy for sex .  People with disabilities are often told they are lucky to be alive so they shouldn’t even worry about sex.  And what about the members of our armed forces who so valiantly serve our country but are separated from their sexual partners for long periods of time.  Next time you see a homeless person give some thought as to what their sex life must be like.  I’m just saying, even if you don’t have a private jet, if you are having sex you may be more privileged than you ever gave yourself credit for.

On August 11, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

Hard Days, Soft Nights…

As men’s age goes up, some uncooperative penises go down.  As we age sex can often be different.  Not necessarily better or worse, just different.  I had an older couple in my office today who are learning to redefine what sex looks like for them as they age.  I couldn’t help but think of my two favorite bulls here in the majestic foothills of Colorado. There was an old bull and a young bull.  They stood together looking down at a herd of well groomed heifers.  The young bull declared, “I’m going to run down there and get me one of them cows.”  The old bull thoughtfully replied, “I’m going to walk down and get them all.”  The moral of the story for our aging population; less can be more!

APA Says Gays Don’t Need to be Fixed…

On August 6, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

Sending gays to therapy to become “un-gay” has been a hotly debated topic within the mental health community for many years.  One school of thought (from a very tiny school with even smaller thoughts) is that homosexuality is a mental illness and that gays should undergo “reparative therapy” in order to become heterosexual.  The American Psychological Association (APA) representing its’ 150,000 professional members, said yesterday that after an exhaustive review of 50 years worth of studies, even if gays wanted to become straight there is no credible evidence concluding that reparative therapy is effective.  As a clinician who has worked with countless people of every sexual orientation, I can say with confidence that sexual orientation is not a choice, but rather a clear case of nature over nurture.  The only people that need repair are the people who impose their moral values on others, pathologize those who are different than themselves, and claim there is only one way to live in this life.

David Letterman: Why Golf is Better Than Sex…

On July 30, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

Letterman or Leno?  Despite the side splitting humor of Leno’s “Jay-Walking” segment, I’m a Dave guy all the way!

David Letterman on “The Top 10 Reasons Golf is Better Than Sex.”

#10…A below par performance is considered damn good.
#9…You can stop in the middle and have a cheeseburger and a couple of beers.
#8…It’s much easier to find the sweet spot.
#7…Foursomes are encouraged.
#6…You can still make money doing it as a senior.
#5..Three times a day is possible.
#4…Your partner doesn’t hire a lawyer if you play with someone else.
#3..If you live in Florida, you can do it almost everyday.
#2…You don’t have to cuddle with your partner when you’re finished.
And the number one reason why golf is better than sex…..
#1…If your equipment gets old and rusty, you can replace it!

Therapy Without Shame…

On July 28, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

headacheJudgemental therapists give me a headache.  Most therapists are compassionate, skilled, emapthic, loving, kind, supportive and nurturing.  Several times per year however, including today, a new client sadly told me they were judged by their former therapist because said therapist wasn’t comfortable with the client’s sexual practices.  That is maddening to me!  As a member of the helping professions our vary ethos is to “first do no harm.”  Fortunately, just when my gaskets were about to blow, a dear friend sent me this lovely quote from one of our former professors.  The following quote from Dr. Epp reminded me of just how many extraordinary people there are in our field, when she said:  “I am a sexologist and that means I’ve given my life to the scientific study of organized information about sex.  Just as I wouldn’t judge daisies over roses if  I were a botanist, I don’t judge sexual behaviors.”  ~ Janice Epp, PhD — You go, girl.  BTW: Dr. Charles Moser wrote a book entitled Health Care Without Shame.  His book is difficult to obtain these days, however our health care system would be a kinder, gentler place if Moser’s book was required reading for all health care professionals.

Sex Tax…

On July 26, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

If Indiana Congressman, Steve Buyer, gets his way — sex could be the next thing to get taxed.  Apparently during discussions for the new health care bill, Buyer suggested a sin tax by way of higher health care premiums for those who engage in risky behavior, including unprotected sex.  (I don’t believe he included risky behaviors such as skydiving, martial arts, or your Harley ride to Sturgis next weekend).  Now let’s just suppose you agree with the congressman.  How are we going to monitor and enforce it?  How will we know the difference between a broken condom and no condom at all?  Would it include oral sex or only intercourse?  By the way, would we make that retroactive to President Clinton’s tryst with Monica, and if so, would the insurance premiums increase for both partners equally, or would there be different rates based on income? Forget nanny cams, if this bill passes I am going into the business of condom cams!

A Sexual Wake-Up Call…

On July 22, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

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Everyone has heard of the 7 year itch.  In clinical terms there are actually three stages of a relationship that are at higher levels of risk for divorce.  Years 7, 15 and 25.  During those times it is easy to focus on the problems.  I like the approach that my colleague Tammy Nelson (seen right) takes which is to focus on the strengths of a relationship, or what she calls the “Waking Up Stage.”  When couples learn to re-connect the spark can live on for the long term. In her book, Getting the Sex You Want, Tammy says, “When you crave more passion in your relationship, you really crave move depth or intimacy.” If you want to hear Tammy live, you can tune in to The Sex & Intimacy Show this Thursday, July 23, 2009.  www.sexandintimacyshow.com

Remember the song “I’m Too Sexy”? You know the one, “I’m too sexy for my shirt, too sexy for my shirt, so sexy it hurts”…

Well, I never thought I’d say these words, but it’s official. I truly understand the burden of being too sexy…TOO SEXY FOR PRIMETIME, that is! We had our inaugural show last week and we were just too hot for prime time, so we’re movin on up. The Sex & Intimacy Show will now air live on Thursday’s at 10pm Mountain (9pm PDT/Midnight EDT).

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1. The show will broadcast live on the Mile High Sports network in Denver Colorado *AM 1510* at 10pm Mountain Time.

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