My Favorite Valentine Day Card of 2016

On January 23, 2016, in sex therapy, by drneilcannon1

V Card


And it’s even on recycled paper from  PR Greetings.  (c) PRGCO, LLC

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Mating in Captivity…

On April 19, 2015, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1



Please allow me to introduce you to my friend, Esther Perel…

Everyone in our field knows that Esther is a shining star in the world of sex, intimacy and relationships. She is a masterful clinician practicing in New York City and the most eloquent person I know. Esther authored the “must read” book for couples called “Mating in Captivity” and she gave a remarkable Ted Talk viewed now by some 6 million people.  Esther speaks a half dozen languages fluently and she has an extraordinary clinical understanding of eroticism.  Esther epitomizes the concept of being an old soul.

My reason for writing about Esther however isn’t about her brilliance, but rather her professional generosity.  Several years ago when Esther was visiting Denver, we were “talking shop” over dinner.  She was kind enough to share an exercise with me that she does with her clients.  I have been using it ever sense with my own clients however I hadn’t yet passed it on to the clinicians that I teach, supervise and mentor.  So on this beautiful Sunday morning here in Denver, I sent Esther an e-mail requesting permission to share her work.  Before I could get back upstairs with a fresh cup of coffee, there was a lovely affirmative response waiting for me.

That my friends, is professional generosity and I didn’t want it to go un-noticed.  Thank you, Esther for all that you do for our beloved field, the clients we serve, and the work we do.



It is 4 degrees below zero here in Denver tonight.  Yes kids, that’s Fahrenheit and that doesn’t account for wind chill.  The weather and a few sad clients remind me of just how many people become depressed from the cold short days and decreased sunshine.  There is no reimbursement code for “cabin fever”  so now the medical community calls it Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).  How’s that for a fitting acronym?  Kidding aside, the feelings of sadness are real and people who already struggle with low libidos are swimming against the tide.  So what’s a girl or guy to do?  The most common treatments are antidepressants, light therapy, and or psychotherapy.  Alternatively, a free organic approach that works for many people is to get sunshine when you can find it and sit next to a bright window.  Seek professional help if you need it and always remember that SAD is temporary because spring is on the way!