We’ve all done it. “If only my partner would do X, Y, or Z, our relationship would be so much better.” With that in mind, I hope you enjoy the following story by Valerie Cox as much as I do… “A woman was waiting at an airport one night, With several long hours before her flight. … Read more
She may not be Bill Clinton, but she is definitely one of the most important people in the field of sexuality. Dr. Patti Britton is the Immediate Past President of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). www.aasect.org. Past President’s of AASECT read like the “Who’s Who” of sexuality professionals. AASECT is … Read more
I heard about this unbelievable “Kitty Porn” story from a colleague. Frankly however, I was afraid to follow-up because I didn’t want to Google “Kitty Porn” and innocently get caught up in an FBI sting where the good guys were trying to catch the bad guys. That said I knew this story was the cat’s meow so I … Read more
Most of us would agree that Ferraris, mansions, and yachts are reserved for the privileged. How many of us however view sex as a privilege? Elderly people who live in retirement homes rarely have sufficient privacy for sex . People with disabilities are often told they are lucky to be alive so they shouldn’t even worry about sex. … Read more
Hard Days, Soft Nights… As men’s age goes up, some uncooperative penises go down. As we age sex can often be different. Not necessarily better or worse, just different. I had an older couple in my office today who are learning to redefine what sex looks like for them as they age. I couldn’t help … Read more
Judgemental therapists give me a headache. Most therapists are compassionate, skilled, emapthic, loving, kind, supportive and nurturing. Several times per year however, including today, a new client sadly told me they were judged by their former therapist because said therapist wasn’t comfortable with the client’s sexual practices. That is maddening to me! As a member of the helping professions our vary ethos … Read more
Everyone has heard of the 7 year itch. In clinical terms there are actually three stages of a relationship that are at higher levels of risk for divorce. Years 7, 15 and 25. During those times it is easy to focus on the problems. I like the approach that my colleague Tammy Nelson (seen right) … Read more
Remember the song “I’m Too Sexy”? You know the one, “I’m too sexy for my shirt, too sexy for my shirt, so sexy it hurts”… Well, I never thought I’d say these words, but it’s official. I truly understand the burden of being too sexy…TOO SEXY FOR PRIMETIME, that is! We had our inaugural show … Read more
One of the biggest challenges couples of all ages face is the use of what I call the two “killer words,” i.e., “always” and “never.” You always do this and you never do that! Always and never are relationship killers because they don’t allow for growth and change. I love this picture of two young … Read more
Sexual desire is the number one concern people bring to my sex therapy practice. One partner wants more and one partner wants less. This is particularly true with new parents. Mom’s hormones are running rampant after the birth of a child, the baby is screaming bloody murder, the new dad doesn’t know what to do, … Read more
