Sex on the beach…

One of the biggest challenges couples of all ages face is the use of what I call the two “killer words,” i.e., “always” and “never.” You always do this and you never do that!  Always and never are relationship killers because they don’t allow for growth and change.  I love this picture of two young … Read more

Hanky Panky for Mommy & Daddy…

Sexual desire is the number one concern people bring to my sex therapy practice.  One partner wants more and one partner wants less.  This is particularly true with new parents.  Mom’s hormones are running rampant after the birth of a child, the baby is screaming bloody murder, the new dad doesn’t know what to do, … Read more

Seasonal Affective Disorder Wreaks Havoc on Sexual Desire…

    It is 4 degrees below zero here in Denver tonight.  Yes kids, that’s Fahrenheit and that doesn’t account for wind chill.  The weather and a few sad clients remind me of just how many people become depressed from the cold short days and decreased sunshine.  There is no reimbursement code for “cabin fever”  … Read more

Fetishes are all good in Sweden…

 Mental health professionals across the globe have a little known “secret code book” used to diagnose mental illness, i.e., depression, anxiety, etc.  In the US it is called the DSM while in Europe it is called the ICD.  Psychiatrists generally get paid by insurance companies and use the codes in this 6 pound, 800 page guerilla of a … Read more

The inauguration of a sex positive society…

     As Barack Obama takes office today this is a historic event for America.  As we change administrations, wouldn’t it be nice if today also represented the first day of a sexual renaissance?   When I tell people that my mission is to help make the world a more sex positive place they often ask what that … Read more

One secret to never tell your spouse…

Let’s just suppose there are one or more features on your body that you are not happy with.  Imagine that!  Well, it’s perfectly natural and okay to have those thoughts, but it is a big mistake to share those thoughts with your partner because ultimately you will convince him or her not to like that part of … Read more

Delayed ejaculation — no need to wait any longer…

It is 12:51AM and the fire alarm in my Denver high-rise is screaming; “fool, jump before you die a miserable death.”  My little black cat, the real Dr. Kinsey has left the warmth of our cashmere comforter and is hiding under the bed.  Three big rig fire trucks are here to save us with sirens howling.  … Read more

Penis Size is Shrinking in America….

I regularly get clients who are concerned about their penis size.  Not surprisingly, as Internet porn grows, an increasing number of men think their own penises are too small.  After all, porn is the primary source where many men get their ideas about what erect penises look like.  Hence, the average guy doesn’t feel like he measures up.  … Read more