Gender Neutral Bathrooms for Safety & Acceptance

On May 14, 2016, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

I see trans teens go all day without using the restroom because they don’t have a bathroom in their school where they feel safe from getting beat-up. This is a real problem that hurts countless trans-youth in Colorado.

Legislation related to the use of public restrooms is now a big thing in the news for transgendered folks however this is something that mental health professionals have been battling for years .  I look forward to the day we solve this problem as a society however in the meanwhile, we can make a difference one school, one kiddo at a time.

If you are one of the many trans teens in Colorado who does not have a safe restroom to use in your junior high or high school, would you like an ally?  I have helped many gender variant clients get policy changed in their school so they have a gender neutral restroom to use.  You don’t have to be my client to get help.  Just send me an e-mail explaining your situation along with the contact information for the principle of your school and I will contact them.  You don’t have to hold it!


My Favorite Valentine Day Card of 2016

On January 23, 2016, in sex therapy, by drneilcannon1

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And it’s even on recycled paper from  PR Greetings.  (c) PRGCO, LLC

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Intensive Workshop in Golden Colorado

On December 31, 2015, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1



If you liked Brene’ Brown’s books or Ted Talks, you just might want to consider this workshop being put on right here in Colorado by my colleagues, Sarah Phillips and Mara Kormylo.  It is a 3 day intensive from January 29 to 31 so you don’t even have to miss any of the NFL playoff games since this is the weekend before the Super Bowl.  The workshop is called Rising Strong and is based on the work of Brene’ Brown.  If you are feeling stuck and ready for change in your life, this workshop may be a great way to help you start the new year.

The cost is $800 and space is limited.  To register follow this link:

Both of the facilitators are licensed mental health professionals.  To talk to the facilitators, you can call either of them direct at:

Mara – 303.324.5469

Sarah – 303.995.3763


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Today in History

On December 20, 2015, in GLBT, LGBT, by drneilcannon1
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It is not lost on me that this event occurred the same year I was born...

Frank Kameny Fired From Government Job for Being Gay: 1957. Frank Kameny was a World War II veteran and Harvard-trained astronomer working for the Army Map Service. In Eric Marcus’s compendium of oral histories, Making History, Kameny described the event that led him to a lifetime of LGBT advocacy:

“When I was on assignment in Hawaii in November or December of 1957, I got a call from my supervisor in Washington, D.C., to come back at once…As soon as I got back, I was called in by some two-bit Civil Service Commission investigator and told, “We have information that leads us to believe that you are a homosexual. Do you have any comment?” I said, “What’s the information?” They answered, “We can’t tell you.” I said, well, then I can’t give you an answer. You don’t deserve an answer. and in any case, this is none of your business.” I was not open about being gay at that time — no one was, not in 1957.

So they called me in, and ultimately it resulted in my termination. They did it the way the government does anything: They issued a letter. They said they were dismissing me for homosexuality. I was in shock.”

(Thank you to Dr. Jack Drescher for keeping history alive!)


Advancing the Field of Human Sexuality

On November 28, 2015, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

There were many of us who worked for over one year to create the following statement that was recently approved by the Board of Directors of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors & Therapists (AASECT).  When the statement was approved, Dr. Russell Stambaugh said, “With this passage of this position, AASECT is officially on record as supporting BDSM, polyamory and consensual non-monogamy as potentially sexually healthy lifestyle choices and behaviors.  This constitutes full implementation of Kinsey’s ideas about the broad range of sexually healthy behaviors.”

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Sexual Expression including Orientation and Identity: Treatment & Education Foundations


It is the position of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists that we oppose any and all therapy models and interventions as well as any educational programs and curricula that seek to pathologize, dictate, or prescribe a person’s sexual orientation, identity, and/or consensual, sexual expression, whether or not it is conventional or atypical.  Regardless of how such clinical interventions or educational programs are labeled or named, AASECT recommends all helping and educating professionals to utilize best practices and culturally relevant resources for foundation and reference.

Furthermore:  AASECT affirms that sexuality is central to the human experience and sexual rights must be honored in order for sexual health and overall well-being to be obtained.  Informed by the best empirical research, AASECT recognizes human sexual experiences as diverse and supports the acceptance of sexual diversity while embracing consensual sexual expression within the framework of human rights and social justice.

AASECT accepts the evidence that human sexual experience includes a vast spectrum of sexual expression, orientation, and identities. These sexualities, between consenting adults when agreed upon, with permission, and assenting, are typically not psychopathological behaviors. Indeed, recent peer-reviewed research on these sexual experiences shows no correlation to pathology.

AASECT further asserts that all people seeking treatment and education about consensual sexual behavior, identity, or orientation deserve accurate information.  AASECT accepts that the empirical evidence is reasonably complete on reparative and conversion therapies that attempt to change sexual orientation or identity and shows that these techniques are experimental at best and overwhelmingly ineffective, with harmful consequences for clients widely documented.

AASECT takes the position that social justice plays an essential and foundational role in the organization’s mission.  Individuals have the right to be free as possible from undue constraints (e.g. discrimination, stigmatization, oppression and violence) along with the freedom to consensual sexual expression. Destigmatizing human sexual expression and experiences as well as creating and maintaining safe space for those who have been traditionally marginalized are essential practices for AASECT members who are predominately mental health practitioners and educators.  This overarching goal compels AASECT to disavow any therapeutic and educational effort that, even if unwittingly, violates or impinges on AASECT’s vision of human rights and social justice.


22 Veterans commit suicide each day.  That statistic simply brings tears to my eyes.  Whether you are a veteran, a sexual minority, gender variant, LGBT youth, or anyone in pain; here is a list of local and national resources and support lines to help you.

National Suicide Prevention Hot Line: 800.273.8255 is available to anyone.  There is a veteran’s line available by pressing 1.




Here is a link to a broad variety of local suicide prevention and other support resources by county in Colorado:

  • Boys Town (for at risk children)
  • Disaster Distress Helpline
    • 1-800-985-5990
    • Text TalkWithUs to 66746
    • TTY for Deaf/Hearing Impaired: 1-800-846-8517




  • National Human Trafficking Resource Center
    • 1-888-373-7888
    • Text BeFree (233733)


  • USA National Child Abuse Hotline
    • 1-800-422-4453 (24/7)



  • National Eating Disorders Association
    • 1-800-931-2237 (Monday-Friday, 11:30 am-7:30 pm EST)
  • ANAD: National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders
    • 630-577-1330 (Monday-Friday,12 pm-8 pm EST)
    • Email ANAD



  • Planned Parenthood
  • STI Resource Center
    • Call 919-361-8488 (Monday-Friday, 8:00 am-6:00 pm EST)


To donate $22 to Remembering the 22 simply go to:


Research for Older Adults in Same Sex Relationships

On September 27, 2015, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1


My colleague, Jane Fleishman at Widener University in Philadelphia is conducting an important research project whereby she is studying people between 60 and 75 that are in same sex relationships.  This is an important and legitimate study as Widener turns out some of the leading sex therapists in the world.  If you meet the criteria, I hope you will take 15 minutes to participate. Simply click on this link:



I currently serve on the Board of Trustees for the Gender Identity Center of Colorado (GIC) and have been involved with the GIC in varying capacities for nearly a decade now. Thanks to our truly amazing Executive Director, Dr. Karen Scarpella, the GIC has grown to become an invaluable resource center for gender variant folks in our community.  I am so grateful for the work that Karen does, along with so many volunteers.

We are in search of one licensed clinician to volunteer to supervise one or two student therapists this year. This is a heart-warming experience and a wonderful opportunity to be professionally generous. It takes about one hour every two weeks and the student clinician works around your schedule and comes to your office so you are not inconvenienced. To qualify, you need to be a licensed clinician and knowledgeable about gender variant issues, or have a strong desire to learn more. If you are interested, please reach out directly to Karen Scarpella Director of the Gender Identity Center of Colorado at 303-202-6466. E-Mail: karen.scarpella@gic-colorado.org


Dr. Paul Gebhard dies at 98

On July 21, 2015, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

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Photo by Bill Dellenback Kinsey Institute

I know how difficult cultural matters related to sexuality are in 2015.  I can’t imagine what it must have been like for Dr. Gebhard and the rest of the famed Kinsey team 65 years ago.  In the 2004 movie titled Kinsey, Dr. Gebhard was played by Timothy Hutton while Dr. Kinsey was played by Liam Neeson.  The invaluable research they did changed our understanding of human sexuality in America forever.

It was announced today by the Kinsey Institute that Dr. Paul Gebhard passed away.  He was 98 so hardly shocking, but none-the-less, it was sad.  The loss of Dr. Gebhard prompted me to pull up a paper I wrote in graduate school about the research conducted by Kinsey, Pomeroy, Martin & Gebhard in 1953.

“The project was a mammoth undertaking and a major accomplishment for the time. All of the data were gathered through personal interviews conducted by Kinsey and five interviewers, whom Kinsey personally trained for approximately one year. Altogether, the Kinsey team spent nine years traveling throughout the country to gather data. Each interview was conducted based on the explicit promise of complete and permanent anonymity. To keep the records secret, Kinsey developed a cryptic coding system that each interviewer committed to memory. To this day, most scholars believe that there is no written record for translating the coding system. At the time of this review, Paul Gebhard[1] is the only living co-author of the volumes, and he is likely the only person who knows how to translate the codes.

The interviewer recorded each interview by hand, using the coding system on a single sheet of paper.[2] In most cases, after an interview was finished, the interviewer personally handled the data, “. . . including the punching of the Hollerith cards and their manipulation in the IBM statistical machines” (Male, p. 45). The research attempted to accurately record the responses of a statistically broad sampling of people from all walks of life and included histories from every state in the nation.

[1] Paul Gebhard was an author of Sexual Behavior in the Human Female (1953), but he was not an author of Sexual Behavior in the Human Male (1948).

[2] Today, each fragile sheet is maintained at the Kinsey Institute in Bloomington, Indiana.

Dr. Gebhard will be dearly missed.  Thank you for all you did!



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Colorado has achieved remarkable reductions in the rate of teenage pregnancy in recent years by giving young women free, long-acting contraceptives that protect them for several years. The birthrate among teenagers in the state plummeted by 40 percent from 2009 to 2013 and teenage abortions dropped by 42 percent largely as a result of this initiative.

Credit the Colorado Department of Public Health and Environment for an aggressive outreach program and wise use of private money to carry out a program that could not win approval from the state’s legislature, the General Assembly. The department used funds from a private foundation to provide women with long-acting contraceptives at little or no cost. More than 30,000 intrauterine devices (IUDs) and contraceptive implants were distributed at 68 family planning clinics across the state.

The contraceptive implant is a small plastic rod, about the size of a matchstick, that contains a small amount of hormones and is inserted just under the skin of the upper arm. It can prevent pregnancy for three years once inserted and can be easily removed at any time; fertility immediately returns to normal. The IUDs provided are effective for at least five years, according to the department.

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