Colorado Gives Day: You can make a difference

On December 4, 2018, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1



You can make a difference today by supporting Denver Family Institute. We are a 501c3 non profit that has been serving the community with strength based counseling services for almost 40 years for folks who could otherwise not afford therapy. I am privileged to be serving as the Interim Board Chair.


I have been treating gender variant and queer clients since the days of the Harry Benjamin Society, now called WPATH (World Professional Association for Transgender Health).  I can’t recall anything as disturbing to support transgender health as a nation than what occurred this week.  Here is the WPATH position statement:

For Immediate Release

East Dundee, IL: October 23, 2018

WPATH Board Responds to Federal Effort to Redefine Gender

The World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH) Board of Directors expresses its strongest disagreement with the intention of the Trump administration to define human gender as the sex recorded at birth based on visible genital formation and to restrict changes, all via regulation. It has been known for decades that sex and gender cannot be determined solely by birth anatomy or chromosomes. More recently, the durable biological underpinnings for gender identity have become better understood within the mainstream medical and scientific communities. Further, the targeting of individuals or groups to deny medically-indicated care represents a violation of the professional oaths taken by us in the medical provider community.

The Trump administration’s past efforts to erase transgender people from American society indicate that its officials believe that XX or XY chromosomal testing to be definitive and definitional. However, this testing is insufficient to measure the known factors that affect the actual sex or gender of a sentient human being.

To acknowledge the diversity of sex and/or gender present in all human beings gives life and potential to those millions of people whose characteristics are not simply defined by sex chromosomes. Over the past 30 years, litigation throughout all levels of the US judicial system has proven time and again that human beings who are not reducible to chromosomes do deserve full equality, including access to employment, housing, public accommodations, education, and health care, along with all rights conferred by the US Constitution.

WPATH member physicians and researchers stand ready to testify before Congress to protect and defend the health and well-being of all transgender and gender-nonconforming people.

Another Child Suicide for Being Different

On August 29, 2018, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

Jamel Myles tragically killed himself yesterday.  Jamel was 9 years old.  I have driven past his Denver elementary school countless times.  The school where he was bullied for being different, for being gay.

How you can help?

Actively support young people in your sphere who are different.  Be actively kind.  Ask direct questions. Does the kiddo like going to school?  Who are his or her friends?  Is there anyone who he or she her is afraid of or who bullies them?

Do you have a bully in your family?  Do you see bullying in your household that you right off as sibling rivalry?  Do you feel bullied in your marriage that your children see and may emulate at school?  Do you actively teach your children to be kind to those who are different?  Do you teach your children about the deadly harm and long term that bullying can result in?  Do you teach your children to love everyone?

Jamel’s grandmother said, “The statement that it takes a village to raise a child is true,” she said. “And the village is broken.”

Suicide rates are rising, and members of the LGBTQ population is at the highest risk.  If you or someone you know is at risk, pease call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

Let’s be kind to everyone!  Different is part of the colorful tapestry of America.  Different is not dangerous!




Helping families have conversations about sex, intimacy and relationships is an important part of what sex therapists, counselors and educators do.  This new program and book was a wonderful resource to help families make complex conversations, simple and fun.

For more information go to:


Honored to be Part of the First Book of its Kind

On February 17, 2018, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

The first book ever written on sex therapy supervision went to press today.  (Supervision is the formal mentoring process that all mental health professionals go through in order to get licensed and/or certified).

Ricky Siegel and James Wadley were the editors.  Many of my supervisor friends and colleagues contributed chapters.  My co-author, Amanda Sasek and I wrote the chapter on systems in sex therapy.  I loved that chapter due to my clinical roots as a Marriage & Family Therapist.

The book should be available by late spring, early summer of 2018.  I feel like we gave birth!



The Rob Porter Story and You…

On February 8, 2018, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

Are you trapped in domestic violence? Do you want to get out but are afraid to leave?  Is it hard to talk about your pain because you are afraid of being judged if you don’t leave?  Are you afraid of not being believed by your friends, family, or even by your therapist?

One out of four women and one out of every seven men have been on the receiving end of domestic violence, emotional and physical abuse.

Between me and all of the amazing clinicians in my network of friends and colleagues, we will do the best we can to help you find resources.  Just call me or e-mail me.  You are in charge.  We are here to support you, however that looks for you, whatever you need!




AASECT Annual Conference

On January 31, 2018, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

For the first time in more than 20 years, the annual conference for the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors & Therapists (AASECT) will be in Denver.  We expect approximately 800 sex positive, sexuality professionals to attend.  You don’t have to be a member of AASECT to attend.  June 14 to 17, 2018.

Be there or be square!  🙂

Here are important links related to awards, scholarships and volunteer opportunities.


The Daddy Stitch: Mommy Alert!

On January 27, 2018, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

During most vaginal childbirths a woman receives an episiotomy.  After the birth, mom is stitched up.   All good except there is this thing called a “Daddy Stitch.”  The daddy stitch is an extra stitch to enhance daddy’s pleasure by making sure that mommy is extra tight.  The woman who gave birth generally has no idea this has occurred and did not give consent for it to happen.  The problem is that for some women, it turns out to be the unknown cause of vaginal pain during intercourse.  I thought it was a myth however it turns out to be a thing practiced by what we believe is a small percentage of medical providers. If you are soon to give birth, have a conversation with your medical providers so you make an informed decision and have a voice in what happens to your body.  Mommy beware!


Navigating the Awkward Stage Workshop

On January 14, 2018, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

Do you have teens or tweens?  This workshop is perfect for parents, guardians and teens to get more comfortable navigating the awkward stages of puberty and adolescence. This workshop will provide basic physiological, biological, psychological and social information on development and how this information can be utilized to help your adolescent have a positive and healthy puberty experience.

Dr. Betsy Cairo and Auburn Meisner have teamed up for what promises to be an excellent program!  For details, click here: