Another Child Suicide for Being Different

On August 29, 2018, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

Jamel Myles tragically killed himself yesterday.  Jamel was 9 years old.  I have driven past his Denver elementary school countless times.  The school where he was bullied for being different, for being gay.

How you can help?

Actively support young people in your sphere who are different.  Be actively kind.  Ask direct questions. Does the kiddo like going to school?  Who are his or her friends?  Is there anyone who he or she her is afraid of or who bullies them?

Do you have a bully in your family?  Do you see bullying in your household that you right off as sibling rivalry?  Do you feel bullied in your marriage that your children see and may emulate at school?  Do you actively teach your children to be kind to those who are different?  Do you teach your children about the deadly harm and long term that bullying can result in?  Do you teach your children to love everyone?

Jamel’s grandmother said, “The statement that it takes a village to raise a child is true,” she said. “And the village is broken.”

Suicide rates are rising, and members of the LGBTQ population is at the highest risk.  If you or someone you know is at risk, pease call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

Let’s be kind to everyone!  Different is part of the colorful tapestry of America.  Different is not dangerous!




Helping families have conversations about sex, intimacy and relationships is an important part of what sex therapists, counselors and educators do.  This new program and book was a wonderful resource to help families make complex conversations, simple and fun.

For more information go to:


Honored to be Part of the First Book of its Kind

On February 17, 2018, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

The first book ever written on sex therapy supervision went to press today.  (Supervision is the formal mentoring process that all mental health professionals go through in order to get licensed and/or certified).

Ricky Siegel and James Wadley were the editors.  Many of my supervisor friends and colleagues contributed chapters.  My co-author, Amanda Sasek and I wrote the chapter on systems in sex therapy.  I loved that chapter due to my clinical roots as a Marriage & Family Therapist.

The book should be available by late spring, early summer of 2018.  I feel like we gave birth!



The Rob Porter Story and You…

On February 8, 2018, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

Are you trapped in domestic violence? Do you want to get out but are afraid to leave?  Is it hard to talk about your pain because you are afraid of being judged if you don’t leave?  Are you afraid of not being believed by your friends, family, or even by your therapist?

One out of four women and one out of every seven men have been on the receiving end of domestic violence, emotional and physical abuse.

Between me and all of the amazing clinicians in my network of friends and colleagues, we will do the best we can to help you find resources.  Just call me or e-mail me.  You are in charge.  We are here to support you, however that looks for you, whatever you need!




AASECT Annual Conference

On January 31, 2018, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

For the first time in more than 20 years, the annual conference for the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors & Therapists (AASECT) will be in Denver.  We expect approximately 800 sex positive, sexuality professionals to attend.  You don’t have to be a member of AASECT to attend.  June 14 to 17, 2018.

Be there or be square!  🙂

Here are important links related to awards, scholarships and volunteer opportunities.


The Daddy Stitch: Mommy Alert!

On January 27, 2018, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

During most vaginal childbirths a woman receives an episiotomy.  After the birth, mom is stitched up.   All good except there is this thing called a “Daddy Stitch.”  The daddy stitch is an extra stitch to enhance daddy’s pleasure by making sure that mommy is extra tight.  The woman who gave birth generally has no idea this has occurred and did not give consent for it to happen.  The problem is that for some women, it turns out to be the unknown cause of vaginal pain during intercourse.  I thought it was a myth however it turns out to be a thing practiced by what we believe is a small percentage of medical providers. If you are soon to give birth, have a conversation with your medical providers so you make an informed decision and have a voice in what happens to your body.  Mommy beware!


Navigating the Awkward Stage Workshop

On January 14, 2018, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

Do you have teens or tweens?  This workshop is perfect for parents, guardians and teens to get more comfortable navigating the awkward stages of puberty and adolescence. This workshop will provide basic physiological, biological, psychological and social information on development and how this information can be utilized to help your adolescent have a positive and healthy puberty experience.

Dr. Betsy Cairo and Auburn Meisner have teamed up for what promises to be an excellent program!  For details, click here:


By NCLR Legal Director

On January 1, for the first time in history, transgender Americans will be able to openly enlist in our nation’s military. This is an incredible moment, and one we can all celebrate.

We know that many transgender Americans have been planning and preparing for over a year for this day.  And many others will now begin considering this as a real option for the very first time.

The military has put considerable time into preparing for this day, and has developed guidelines for those charged with processing new recruits. If you are planning to begin the enlistment process in January or in the coming months, we encourage you to connect with a knowledgeable recruiter, or with an organization like SPART*A or OUTSERVE-SLDN, to ensure you understand the guidelines and requirements.

It is in the interest of both the military and our community for the enlistment process to go smoothly, and we believe it will.  That said, it is possible there will be small hiccups as things get underway. If you do encounter anything confusing or concerning, we encourage you to remain calm, and know that it does not mean the problem will be ongoing.  Do reach out to one of our legal organizations and let us know of your concern:

Military service is a serious and admirable undertaking. We are grateful for the many courageous transgender Americans who are currently serving and who will begin serving soon, with dignity and honor.

Thank you.


Arapahoe House Closing

On December 17, 2017, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1
After 42 years of non-profit service to the metro Denver community, Denver’s largest substance abuse treatment center is closing.  Arapahoe House will close on January 2, 2018 due to the inability to financially sustain the cost of delivering their life-changing programs.  Everyone in the mental health community in Denver knows this is a sad day for our county.
Since 1975, Arapahoe House has served as a safety-net provider of substance use disorder treatment for Coloradans. Unfortunately, the cost to care for these patients is greater than the funding provided by state and federal sources including Medicaid.  This will affect some 5,000 patients in the Denver area annually.
According to CEO, Mike Butler, here is the timeline:
  • On December 15, 2017 at 5 p.m., new patient admissions will stop.
  • Arapahoe House will close on January 2, 2018.
  • Treatment for current patients in both residential and outpatient settings will conclude by Jan. 2, 2018 and most staff will be laid off then.
  • Arapahoe House already is working with the treatment community to ensure as smooth a transition as possible. Every effort will be made to place current patients with other providers.
  • In order to continue to help community members seeking treatment and provide information about substance use disorders, Arapahoe House’s call center (303-657-3700) will remain open from 8 a.m. to 7 p.m., Monday through Saturday, through Jan. 2. We have increased the call center’s capacity in anticipation of more calls.

Many of us are still scrambling to find alternative resources for our clients.  If you need support, here is a link to many low cost and free substance abuse treatment centers.