The Rob Porter Story and You…

On February 8, 2018, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

Are you trapped in domestic violence? Do you want to get out but are afraid to leave?  Is it hard to talk about your pain because you are afraid of being judged if you don’t leave?  Are you afraid of not being believed by your friends, family, or even by your therapist?

One out of four women and one out of every seven men have been on the receiving end of domestic violence, emotional and physical abuse.

Between me and all of the amazing clinicians in my network of friends and colleagues, we will do the best we can to help you find resources.  Just call me or e-mail me.  You are in charge.  We are here to support you, however that looks for you, whatever you need!




AASECT Annual Conference

On January 31, 2018, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

For the first time in more than 20 years, the annual conference for the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors & Therapists (AASECT) will be in Denver.  We expect approximately 800 sex positive, sexuality professionals to attend.  You don’t have to be a member of AASECT to attend.  June 14 to 17, 2018.

Be there or be square!  🙂

Here are important links related to awards, scholarships and volunteer opportunities.


The Daddy Stitch: Mommy Alert!

On January 27, 2018, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

During most vaginal childbirths a woman receives an episiotomy.  After the birth, mom is stitched up.   All good except there is this thing called a “Daddy Stitch.”  The daddy stitch is an extra stitch to enhance daddy’s pleasure by making sure that mommy is extra tight.  The woman who gave birth generally has no idea this has occurred and did not give consent for it to happen.  The problem is that for some women, it turns out to be the unknown cause of vaginal pain during intercourse.  I thought it was a myth however it turns out to be a thing practiced by what we believe is a small percentage of medical providers. If you are soon to give birth, have a conversation with your medical providers so you make an informed decision and have a voice in what happens to your body.  Mommy beware!


Navigating the Awkward Stage Workshop

On January 14, 2018, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

Do you have teens or tweens?  This workshop is perfect for parents, guardians and teens to get more comfortable navigating the awkward stages of puberty and adolescence. This workshop will provide basic physiological, biological, psychological and social information on development and how this information can be utilized to help your adolescent have a positive and healthy puberty experience.

Dr. Betsy Cairo and Auburn Meisner have teamed up for what promises to be an excellent program!  For details, click here:


By NCLR Legal Director

On January 1, for the first time in history, transgender Americans will be able to openly enlist in our nation’s military. This is an incredible moment, and one we can all celebrate.

We know that many transgender Americans have been planning and preparing for over a year for this day.  And many others will now begin considering this as a real option for the very first time.

The military has put considerable time into preparing for this day, and has developed guidelines for those charged with processing new recruits. If you are planning to begin the enlistment process in January or in the coming months, we encourage you to connect with a knowledgeable recruiter, or with an organization like SPART*A or OUTSERVE-SLDN, to ensure you understand the guidelines and requirements.

It is in the interest of both the military and our community for the enlistment process to go smoothly, and we believe it will.  That said, it is possible there will be small hiccups as things get underway. If you do encounter anything confusing or concerning, we encourage you to remain calm, and know that it does not mean the problem will be ongoing.  Do reach out to one of our legal organizations and let us know of your concern:

Military service is a serious and admirable undertaking. We are grateful for the many courageous transgender Americans who are currently serving and who will begin serving soon, with dignity and honor.

Thank you.


Arapahoe House Closing

On December 17, 2017, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1
After 42 years of non-profit service to the metro Denver community, Denver’s largest substance abuse treatment center is closing.  Arapahoe House will close on January 2, 2018 due to the inability to financially sustain the cost of delivering their life-changing programs.  Everyone in the mental health community in Denver knows this is a sad day for our county.
Since 1975, Arapahoe House has served as a safety-net provider of substance use disorder treatment for Coloradans. Unfortunately, the cost to care for these patients is greater than the funding provided by state and federal sources including Medicaid.  This will affect some 5,000 patients in the Denver area annually.
According to CEO, Mike Butler, here is the timeline:
  • On December 15, 2017 at 5 p.m., new patient admissions will stop.
  • Arapahoe House will close on January 2, 2018.
  • Treatment for current patients in both residential and outpatient settings will conclude by Jan. 2, 2018 and most staff will be laid off then.
  • Arapahoe House already is working with the treatment community to ensure as smooth a transition as possible. Every effort will be made to place current patients with other providers.
  • In order to continue to help community members seeking treatment and provide information about substance use disorders, Arapahoe House’s call center (303-657-3700) will remain open from 8 a.m. to 7 p.m., Monday through Saturday, through Jan. 2. We have increased the call center’s capacity in anticipation of more calls.

Many of us are still scrambling to find alternative resources for our clients.  If you need support, here is a link to many low cost and free substance abuse treatment centers.

Banned Words

On December 16, 2017, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

I’m old enough to remember when comedian, George Carlin’s “seven dirty words” were banned from TV.  I am not old enough to remember when another White House banned the CDC from using seven “dirty words.”  According to Fox News, CNN, and the Washington Post, the White House has banned the CDC from using these seven words: “vulnerable,” “entitlement,” “diversity,” “transgender,” “fetus,” “evidence –based” and “science-based.”  How then, are we supposed to refer to our transgender bothers and sisters, daughters and sons, mothers and fathers? One of the classes I teach is called, “Sexual Diversity.”  The therapy that most competent licensed clinicians practice is “evidence-based” with the alternative being experimental therapy.   I don’t think it matters what side of the political isle we stand on, these are confusing times!


Love Serves All, Hate Serves None

On August 22, 2017, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

As AASECT’s Colorado Section Leader for the past decade, I am proud to be an active member on days like today when such a powerful message is sent…

On behalf of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), we are heartbroken, disappointed, outraged, and horrified by the recent displays of racism, misogyny, anti-Semitism, and violence in Charlottesville. We recognize that white supremacy is not limited to this historical time or place. We also recognize that bigoted actions such as those displayed have deep and lasting impacts on us all, including our students, patients and clients. As sexuality educators, counselors, and therapists, we want to re-iterate our core values described in our Vision of Sexual Health where we note: “AASECT also opposes all abuses of sexuality including, but not limited to, harassment, intimidation, coercion, prejudice, and the infringement of any individual’s sexual and civil rights.” While this particular statement pertains to sexuality, we want to be clear that AASECT opposes all forms of harassment, intimidation, coercion, prejudice, and the infringement of any individual’s civil rights.

Black lives matter. The racism, bigotry, anti-Semitism and other messages and acts of violence cast toward communities of color and faith communities must end. People of all faiths, genders, races, ethnicities, nationalities, sexual orientations, and abilities have human rights, and those rights must be respected. As an organization, we acknowledge that our journey for cultural competency and progress will never end because there is always more to learn, teach, and share. We care deeply and are committed to continuing to address these issues, and living our values, in our own work. As an organization that represents therapists, counselors, and educators, we are committed to the work of helping everyone understand the cultural and historical impact that bias, discrimination, racism, and trauma have on personal, psychological, sexual, and emotional experiences.


AASECT Board of Directors & AASECT Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion Committee

August 2017


Am I Normal?

On July 20, 2017, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

If you are like most people, you have probably wondered how you compare sexually to others.  Here is a summary from a large newly published study led by Dr. Debby Herbenick from the Indian University and her team of researchers.

The survey was confidential and the researchers never had access to respondents’ identifiers. Respondents reported on demographic items, lifetime and recent sexual behaviors, and the appeal of 50+ sexual behaviors. Most (>80%) reported lifetime masturbation, vaginal sex, and oral sex. Lifetime anal sex was reported by 43% of men (insertive) and 37% of women (receptive). Common lifetime sexual behaviors included wearing sexy lingerie/underwear (75% women, 26% men), sending/receiving digital nude/ semi-nude photos (54% women, 65% men), reading erotic stories (57% of participants), public sex (43%), role-playing (22%), tying/being tied up (20%), spanking (30%), and watching sexually explicit videos/DVDs (60% women, 82% men). Having engaged in threesomes (10% women, 18% men) and playful whipping (13%) were less common. Lifetime group sex, sex parties, taking a sexuality class/workshop, and going to BDSM parties were uncommon (each <8%).

Thank you, Debby for such an important contribution to our field!

© 2017 Herbenick et al