I have been treating gender variant and queer clients since the days of the Harry Benjamin Society, now called WPATH (World Professional Association for Transgender Health).  I can’t recall anything as disturbing to support transgender health as a nation than what occurred this week.  Here is the WPATH position statement:

For Immediate Release

East Dundee, IL: October 23, 2018

WPATH Board Responds to Federal Effort to Redefine Gender

The World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH) Board of Directors expresses its strongest disagreement with the intention of the Trump administration to define human gender as the sex recorded at birth based on visible genital formation and to restrict changes, all via regulation. It has been known for decades that sex and gender cannot be determined solely by birth anatomy or chromosomes. More recently, the durable biological underpinnings for gender identity have become better understood within the mainstream medical and scientific communities. Further, the targeting of individuals or groups to deny medically-indicated care represents a violation of the professional oaths taken by us in the medical provider community.

The Trump administration’s past efforts to erase transgender people from American society indicate that its officials believe that XX or XY chromosomal testing to be definitive and definitional. However, this testing is insufficient to measure the known factors that affect the actual sex or gender of a sentient human being.

To acknowledge the diversity of sex and/or gender present in all human beings gives life and potential to those millions of people whose characteristics are not simply defined by sex chromosomes. Over the past 30 years, litigation throughout all levels of the US judicial system has proven time and again that human beings who are not reducible to chromosomes do deserve full equality, including access to employment, housing, public accommodations, education, and health care, along with all rights conferred by the US Constitution.

WPATH member physicians and researchers stand ready to testify before Congress to protect and defend the health and well-being of all transgender and gender-nonconforming people.

Hard times can make for soft penises…

On January 26, 2010, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

Nobody comes into my office and says, “Hey Doc, I just lost my life savings and my erection is better than ever.” The truth is that stress can negatively impact erections but so can a lot of other things.  More than one-third of American men between 40 to 70 experience erectile difficulties (ED).  That’s 20 million men!  The great thing is that there is a lot you can do to improve the situation.  If you are on medication, talk to your doc and see if your meds could be the culprit.  If so, there are generally alternatives that are more penis-friendly.  Exercise more.  It’s all about your cardiovascular system and blood flow.  If you smoke, stop yesterday. Not only do cigarettes make your mouth taste like an ashtray but they will soften your erection as well and ultimately make your penis shrink down to the size of a baby carrot.  Viagra, Cialis and Levitra may be options for you as well.  Many GP’s are not aware of the 2.5 MG dose of everyday Cialis so you might want to talk to your MD about that as an option (less side affects and you are always ready).  Your diet and vitamins can also have an impact.  There is a really good book called “The Hardness Factor” that has lots of details about how diet and vitamins can make for a harder and happier penis.  The bottom line is that most couples don’t have to settle for softness.

Book banning…

On January 26, 2010, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

I wish this post was about Iraq or North Korea however unfortunately we are talking about California, the largest state in this great nation. Merriam-Webster’s 10th edition contains the term and definition for “oral sex” (oral stimulation of the genitals).  This past week, one parent in Riverside, California complained to the school district and the world’s most published dictionary has been banned from the 4th and 5th grade classrooms.  This is the type of “head in the sand” policy that continues to cause increasing rates in STD’s and unwanted teen pregnancies.  Our kids need comprehensive sexuality education.  Ignorance solves nothing.  I’m guessing that most 4th and 5th graders have access to a computer.  When they do a Google search for “oral sex” like I just did, they are going to see that the search engine found 21,300,000 pages of information on oral sex, the first of which was “Free Nasty Oral” while the second was “give the best blow jobs.”  CNN took a pole and found that 97% of the respondents are against banning the dictionaries yet the school board remains solid in their convictions and have vowed to “start looking for other things of a graphic nature.”  I propose that the 11th edition of the dictionary shows a picture of the 2010 school board next to the word, “knucklehead”.

 

Here it is folks, your comprehensive guide to semen in 500 words or less.  First off, semen is not to be confused with seamen.  Although many seamen are men, and most men have semen, and most semen contains 1% sperm, not all seamen can swim.  On the other hand, living sperm within semen can swim and generally do so at a nautical speed of 7 inches per hour.  Switching to air travel for semen, no seamen can fly but most semen can.  In fact, semen blast off during the initial ejaculatory launch at a speed of nearly 30 MPH and can fly up to 3 feet in the air.  This is exactly why the US Naval Command encourages their young seamen to where safety goggles during masturbation.  Semen presents dangers to even the most experienced seamen. For more valuable information on semen, go to: http://www.accessrx.com/blog/sexuality-dr-neil-cannon/all-about-semen/

Not so sexy…

On January 15, 2010, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

This has nothing to do with sex or relationships however it might impact your life.  I had the craziest experience this morning.  My parents are in their 80’s and my son is in his late 20’s.  Grandpa received a phone call this morning saying that my son had traveled to New York for a wedding and was in an auto accident.  The caller who was claiming to be my son said he needed thousands of dollars wired to Western Union right away.  Fortunately my son is okay and wasn’t in an accident.  The entire thing was a scam targeting the elderly.  (BTW: My mother is going to hate me for calling her elderly!).  Anyhow, this is the stuff we hear about on TV but think it will never happen to us.  As the sergeant used to say on Hill Street Blues as he was sending his squad off to protect and serve, “Let’s be careful out there.”

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The Year of the Tiger…

On January 3, 2010, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

2010 is The Year of the Tiger.  Not only that, but Chinese New Years falls on February 14th this year.  Hmmm.  I bet Valentine’s Day is a little different in the Woods household this year. But here’s the deal: Regardless of how bad it looks, it may not be over for Tiger and Elin. People who are compulsive about sex can be just as compulsive about healing if given the chance.  If Tiger and Elin want to make this work and hold their family together, they can.  Believe it or not, I have seen couples with much bigger problems heal and learn to love each other like never before.  It may look hopeless, but don’t count Tiger out from coming back yet. Just ask Roco Mediate!

Is this Your Year to Forgive & Forget?

On January 1, 2010, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

I have the honor of working with many people who have been abused physically, emotionally and or sexually.  Our culture teaches us to “forgive and forget” and in fact those who don’t are often shamed for not taking the high road.  Society says to forgive and forget, let bygones be bygones, and turn the other cheek.  For people who have been abused or traumatized, forgiving isn’t necessarily the answer.  The truth is you can choose to accept what has happened but you don’t have to forgive whoever has harmed you unless you so choose to.  Forgiving is a very personal choice not to be influenced by what you think you “should” do.  There is no shame in accepting what has happened without forgiving the perpetrator.  The power comes when you can make your reaction to what happened be a choice.  That’s the difference between being a victim and being a survivor.

The Power of Counseling…

On December 31, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

As we wrap up 2009 I found it interesting, but hardly surprising that US News & World Reports announced marriage and family therapy as one of the 50 best careers for 2010.  Why?  Because counseling works!  I can’t tell you how many times I have seen individuals and couples in horrible distress who feel more hopeful after just one therapy session. Most people are in therapy for a lot longer than one session of course and I am certainly not claiming the positive results are due to my “personal brilliance”.  However when we think about the three most important characteristics in a counselor; those being “empathy, warmth, and genuineness,” (William Miller), it’s hardly surprising that people respond well to therapy, which is why the field is growing. The best advice I can give anyone considering therapy is that if you think you need it, you just might.  I love what Sydney Smith said, “Resolve to make at least one person happy every day, and then in ten years you may have made three thousand, six hundred and fifty persons happy, or brightened a small town by your contribution to the fund of general enjoyment.”  That is what it is like to be a therapist 7 days a week, so what’s not to love!

10 Tips to Guarantee a Sexy Holiday Season…

On November 26, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

If I had a condom for each time somebody told me their sexual activity is down during the holidays, we could reduce unwanted teen pregnancies by 50%.  If you want be among the group who has a December filled with romance, it starts with intention.

For 10 sure fire tips on how to get the sex you want this holiday season go to an article I wrote at http://www.accessrx.com/blog/sexuality-dr-neil-cannon/top-10-holiday-tips-for-sex/.   Enjoy!

Spanish Fly is No Bueno…

On November 6, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

I’m conducing a couples workshop in Mexico this week and a question arose about the notorious Spanish fly.  Yes, there really is such a thing and no, kids, don’t try this at home.  The spanish fly is made from beetles — the South American Emerald Green Beetle to be precise.  The Spanish fly is poisonous to humans but they are sometimes used to arouse bulls as an enticement to help them breed. I didn’t actually know bulls needed any more motivation to breed than a heifer in heat! The moral of the story is, as yummy as they look, leave these beetles to the bulls.