Colorado Denim Day

On April 25, 2015, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

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In 1997 in Rome, Italy, an 18-year-old girl was raped by her 45-year-old driving instructor, who was later convicted and sentenced to jail. The perpetrator appealed the sentence, and his case went to the Italian Supreme Court where the case was overturned. The Head Judge released a statement arguing that because the victim wore tight jeans, he assumed that she must have helped her perpetrator remove her jeans and, therefore, consented.

This is enraging and is commonly referred to as victim blaming.  Sadly, because of the many women I treat for trauma, rape and abuse, I know that unfortunately this sort of awful activity continues to occur here in our great state of Colorado.

The Colorado Coalition Against Sexual Assault (CCASA) is holding its’ 3rd Annual Colorado Denim Day event in an effort to raise awareness about sexual assault throughout Colorado and to raise funds to support the mission of promoting safety, justice, and healing for survivors while working toward the elimination of sexual violence in our communities.  Please join me…

Sign-up today! Go online to www.coloradodenimday.org/participate.

On Colorado Denim Day, April 29, 2015, state agencies, businesses, and other groups in Colorado will be asked to allow their employees to pay $5 in exchange for wearing jeans on Denim Day. Wearing jeans is a conversation-starter and visual sign of your support of survivors and CCASA’s mission to end sexual violence. Colorado Denim Day will show the power of communities coming together to support survivors and take a stand against sexual violence.

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Is this Your Year to Forgive & Forget?

On January 1, 2010, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

I have the honor of working with many people who have been abused physically, emotionally and or sexually.  Our culture teaches us to “forgive and forget” and in fact those who don’t are often shamed for not taking the high road.  Society says to forgive and forget, let bygones be bygones, and turn the other cheek.  For people who have been abused or traumatized, forgiving isn’t necessarily the answer.  The truth is you can choose to accept what has happened but you don’t have to forgive whoever has harmed you unless you so choose to.  Forgiving is a very personal choice not to be influenced by what you think you “should” do.  There is no shame in accepting what has happened without forgiving the perpetrator.  The power comes when you can make your reaction to what happened be a choice.  That’s the difference between being a victim and being a survivor.

Overcoming Sexual Shame…

On February 1, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

Guilt is feeling bad for what we did, i.e., “I had unprotected sex.”  Shame is feeling bad for who we are, i.e., “I’m a slut.”  Shame is that inner voice that says, “I’m not good enough.”  For many people shame becomes the core belief of who we are and eats away at the deepest part of our soul.  The roots of shame are often found in childhood events, a rigid religious upbringing, or traumatic events like rape.  For people who have been abused or traumatized there are often feelings of self blame, i.e., “It’s my fault.  I’m no good or I wouldn’t have been treated so badly.”  There is no cookie cutter formula for treating shame but overcoming it is possible and life changing.  If you feel bad about who you are, today might be a good day to start the healing process.  There is always hope, potential and possibility.  Sometimes we just need a little help to see the bright light shining at the end of the tunnel. www.doctorcannon.com

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