Not so sexy…

On January 15, 2010, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

This has nothing to do with sex or relationships however it might impact your life.  I had the craziest experience this morning.  My parents are in their 80’s and my son is in his late 20’s.  Grandpa received a phone call this morning saying that my son had traveled to New York for a wedding and was in an auto accident.  The caller who was claiming to be my son said he needed thousands of dollars wired to Western Union right away.  Fortunately my son is okay and wasn’t in an accident.  The entire thing was a scam targeting the elderly.  (BTW: My mother is going to hate me for calling her elderly!).  Anyhow, this is the stuff we hear about on TV but think it will never happen to us.  As the sergeant used to say on Hill Street Blues as he was sending his squad off to protect and serve, “Let’s be careful out there.”

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The Year of the Tiger…

On January 3, 2010, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

2010 is The Year of the Tiger.  Not only that, but Chinese New Years falls on February 14th this year.  Hmmm.  I bet Valentine’s Day is a little different in the Woods household this year. But here’s the deal: Regardless of how bad it looks, it may not be over for Tiger and Elin. People who are compulsive about sex can be just as compulsive about healing if given the chance.  If Tiger and Elin want to make this work and hold their family together, they can.  Believe it or not, I have seen couples with much bigger problems heal and learn to love each other like never before.  It may look hopeless, but don’t count Tiger out from coming back yet. Just ask Roco Mediate!

Is this Your Year to Forgive & Forget?

On January 1, 2010, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

I have the honor of working with many people who have been abused physically, emotionally and or sexually.  Our culture teaches us to “forgive and forget” and in fact those who don’t are often shamed for not taking the high road.  Society says to forgive and forget, let bygones be bygones, and turn the other cheek.  For people who have been abused or traumatized, forgiving isn’t necessarily the answer.  The truth is you can choose to accept what has happened but you don’t have to forgive whoever has harmed you unless you so choose to.  Forgiving is a very personal choice not to be influenced by what you think you “should” do.  There is no shame in accepting what has happened without forgiving the perpetrator.  The power comes when you can make your reaction to what happened be a choice.  That’s the difference between being a victim and being a survivor.

The Power of Counseling…

On December 31, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

As we wrap up 2009 I found it interesting, but hardly surprising that US News & World Reports announced marriage and family therapy as one of the 50 best careers for 2010.  Why?  Because counseling works!  I can’t tell you how many times I have seen individuals and couples in horrible distress who feel more hopeful after just one therapy session. Most people are in therapy for a lot longer than one session of course and I am certainly not claiming the positive results are due to my “personal brilliance”.  However when we think about the three most important characteristics in a counselor; those being “empathy, warmth, and genuineness,” (William Miller), it’s hardly surprising that people respond well to therapy, which is why the field is growing. The best advice I can give anyone considering therapy is that if you think you need it, you just might.  I love what Sydney Smith said, “Resolve to make at least one person happy every day, and then in ten years you may have made three thousand, six hundred and fifty persons happy, or brightened a small town by your contribution to the fund of general enjoyment.”  That is what it is like to be a therapist 7 days a week, so what’s not to love!

10 Tips to Guarantee a Sexy Holiday Season…

On November 26, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

If I had a condom for each time somebody told me their sexual activity is down during the holidays, we could reduce unwanted teen pregnancies by 50%.  If you want be among the group who has a December filled with romance, it starts with intention.

For 10 sure fire tips on how to get the sex you want this holiday season go to an article I wrote at http://www.accessrx.com/blog/sexuality-dr-neil-cannon/top-10-holiday-tips-for-sex/.   Enjoy!

Spanish Fly is No Bueno…

On November 6, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

I’m conducing a couples workshop in Mexico this week and a question arose about the notorious Spanish fly.  Yes, there really is such a thing and no, kids, don’t try this at home.  The spanish fly is made from beetles — the South American Emerald Green Beetle to be precise.  The Spanish fly is poisonous to humans but they are sometimes used to arouse bulls as an enticement to help them breed. I didn’t actually know bulls needed any more motivation to breed than a heifer in heat! The moral of the story is, as yummy as they look, leave these beetles to the bulls.

Vampires & Sexuality…

On October 25, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1
My experience with vampires began with a young female client who was a self-described vampiress.  With halloween around the corner and vampires on the rise in the mainstream media, I thought it’s time we give vampires a legitimate forum to have a conversation about a topic that most people know little about. For some, vampires represent the epitome of sexuality.  Legend has it that vampires are aristocratic, possess super powers and are 20 times stronger than their mortal counterparts.  What’s not sexy about that?  If you want to learn more, join us this week on the Sex and Intimacy show for our Halloween special where we will be interviewing a real vampire.  Our special guests include one of the leading vampires in the world, and world-renowned fang-maker Sebastiaan van Houten.  We will also be interviewing sexuality educator, Timaree Schmit who’s most recent project in process is the movie, Kiss Kiss Fang Fan, a lesbian vampire film.  Come hang with us for a show you will remember until you are undead!  For information on how to listen go to www.sexandintimacyshow.com.

Kinky is NOT a Diagnosis…

On October 17, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

Help make history by signing the DSM Revision Petition now! The diagnoses in the DSM-IV-TR still subject
people who practice BDSM, fetishes and cross-dressing to bias, discrimination and social sanctions
without any scientific basis.

Sexual attitudes and behaviors change over time, i.e., it was only 100 years ago that masturbation was thought to cause blindness by the same medical community that is responsible for writing the 800 page DSM today.  Do you really want the government in your bedroom determining what is and is not a healthy form of sexual expression?

In addition to my private practice as a sex therapist I also testify as an expert witness as well as conduct diversity training for large corporations.  Labeling people as mentally ill can have a tremendous impact on child custody cases, employment matters, and security clearances.  For mental health professionals such as myself who are open and affirming to all forms of sexual expression between consenting adults, I can say with certainty that this is a very important issue and I hope every person who reads my blog will help by signing this petition.  In 3 minutes you can make a difference.

We need 3,000 signatures, but we only have 2,200 now. If you don’t speak up and call on the American
Psychiatric Association to adhere to empirical research when revising the diagnoses in the Diagnostic
and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM V), then the Sexual and Gender Identity Disorders Work
Group won’t make a meaningful change.

To sign, go to: www.thepetitionsite.com/1/DSMrevisionpetition

You can make your signature anonymous on this secure petition site so it doesn’t appear on the Internet
or when the petition is delivered to the APA.

What really goes on for men when they are dating?  Why don’t traditional relationships work for everyone?  Mark Anthony, self-described “serial dater” is going to answer those questions and more.  The Sex & Intimacy Show is one hour of unadulterated entertainment and eduction!  It is the only radio show where no question is off limits and no topic is taboo! For details about how to listen every Thursday night go to  www.sexandintimacyshow.com

To learn more about serial dater, Mark Anthony, the most interesting man in Canada you can visit his blog at: http://confessionsserialdater.blogspot.com/. We hope you will kick off your weekend by joining us for a sexy Thursday night!

From the Martial Arts to Marital Arts…

On October 1, 2009, in Uncategorized, by drneilcannon1

 

We have very special guests tonight on the Sex & Intimacy Show — the entertaining show about everyone’s favorite subject!  Tonight we will be joined by Richard & Diana Daffner.  The Daffner’s are the authors of Tantric Sex for Busy Couples: How to Deepen Your Passion in Just Ten Minutes a Day.  Did you hear that? 10 minutes for a hotter sex life!  The Daffner’s also bring an interesting twist to sexuality in that they are both instructors in the martial arts.  Diana is actually a black belt!  Richard and Diana are incredibly passionate about using sexual connection as a pathway to intimacy, love and authentic presence. Tonight’s show will be on immediately following the Avalanche post game show, so take a nap at work today and join us tonight.  For listening information and more information about Richard and Diana go to www.sexandintimacyshow.com